Enough is Enough.

I have an important question to ask you.

Are you enough?

Deep down do you believe that the person you are right now, with all your imperfections and failures, do you believe that person is enough?

I don’t think most of us do.

We tolerate working ridiculous hours and no vacations in the name of climbing the job ladder.

We put ourselves through insane diets and miserable workout plans.

We spend the little money we have on fancy lattes and restaurants, new clothes, excessive amounts of alcohol, and every new beauty treatment we can find.

And we post all about it on social media in the hopes of getting enough likes.

All to make us feel like we’re enough.

The thing is, most of the time we don’t even realize we’re thinking this way.

Most of the time, the fear of not being enough surfaces before we even recognize it, before we see how it’s changing our actions and interactions with those around us.

It usually goes something like this:

Our shirts start to ride up on a run and we quickly tug it back down. Translation >> We’re not skinny enough for the world to see our stomachs.

People ask how work is going and we say “It’s a job.” Translation>> We don’t make six figures yet doing something we love so we’re not successful enough to say it’s going well.

We complain about how making friends as an adult is hard. It’s so much work to get to know people. Translation>> We can’t be ourselves around people because we’re not likeable enough.

We post about the walk we went for instead of the cookie dough we ate (and enjoyed). Translation >> People will see that we’re not healthy enough.

We put down that person from college who’s always posting about their travels and new clothes. They think they’re so much better than us. Translation >> We’re not successful, smart, attractive, or fun enough.

Unchecked, this pervasive fear of never being enough embeds itself in all aspects of our life.

We start to sell ourselves short and give up easily on our goals. We isolate ourselves from people, embark on newer, stricter diets, and vow to work longer hours.

The beautiful thing is that by simply identifying this belief, we can start to reprogram our subconscious.

 

We can cultivate a mindset of abundance.

How does this work?

Let’s take the scenario where you’ve been trying to eat less fast food but you end up visiting the In-N-Out Drive through because you skipped lunch that day and were starving. And dammit you wanted one.

You’ve barely finished your fries before the voice in your head reminds you that you’ve just failed again.

Why are trying to eat better again anyways? You’re never going to be able to do it, just give up. This is why you need to go back on that grapefruit cleanse.

Acknowledge the thought when it occurs and accept it.

Our gut reaction when we have a ‘negative’ thought or emotion surface is to drown it out, pretend it doesn’t exist.

Ultimately, this tends to make the thought or fear even stronger and give it power to influence our actions.

Instead of pushing the thought away, we can choose to acknowledge its presence and see what it’s really trying to tell us.

Ok brain, I hear you. I said that this was something that is important to me and I messed up. I feel really shitty about it. And ashamed. I guess, I’m just disappointed because I really want this to happen, this would be so good for me.
Clear out the mind junk.

Thoughts and beliefs are just that, thought and beliefs.

They are not truths.

Which means we have the power to choose what thoughts and beliefs we want filling our minds.

We can let the negative, self-demeaning one’s (aka mind junk) take over, or we can fill our minds with positive, powerful thoughts.

Yea, being healthy is really important to me and I am taking that one day at a time. I’m learning from my mistakes. I have food in my stomach, water to drink, a roof over my head. I have everything I need right now. I am enough.

Watch the thought leave.

Thoughts and emotions are funny like that.

Once we give a thought or a feeling the attention it’s asking for, and gently remind ourselves of the truths that we choose to believe instead, they disappear.

Leaving you free to choose how you want to respond to the situation knowing that you are more than enough.

No brain, I don’t need that grapefruit cleanse, it’s a silly scam and I know it’s not going to make me happy or healthy long term. But tomorrow I am going to make sure that I pack a lunch for myself. And I think I could use a walk now.

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So what story are you telling yourself? Where are you telling yourself that you’re not enough?

More importantly, what would your life be like, if you were to believe that you were enough?

What would your life look like when you truly accepted that just as you are right now, you are strong, smart, accomplished, attractive, and good enough?

Would you act differently?

How would you relate with your friends and family?

How would you show up to work?

How would you talk to yourself when you’re all alone?

I am enough.

You are enough.

It’s time we start acting like it.

To your health and happiness,
Julia

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